Vaginal dryness: ‘Why I Can’t Get Wet?’


It is important to be self-conscious about your lubrication levels, as it is the gateway of pleasure. Still, it also allows you to observe underlying health issues that may have gone unnoticed. It is a sensitive subject for us girls, which may affect your confidence, and you may feel ashamed, but there is nothing to be ashamed of.

Whenever you have difficulties lubricating naturally, you ask yourself ‘why?’, in this article, we will go over the matter in-depth so that you may know the cause and how to get rid of this condition.

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The Perfect Amount

To begin with, there is nothing such as the perfect amount of wetness. Till now, you should have already learned everyone’s body is different and that we react differently to certain situations thus will ‘wet’ differently.

The idea of having a ‘perfect amount of wetness’ projects an expectation over someone, and as most people tend to be stressed during sex, we do not attain that perfect amount and thus feel bad.

Myth; There is no perfect amount.

Too Much Or Too Little

Yes, you could be producing too little lubrication during sex; this is what we will discuss, and too much lubricant will be if you feel a sensation of wetness outside sexual contexts, which could be a sign of infection. Still, inside of sexual context, there is no such thing as too wet.

Producing too little lubrication can make the sex painful and also create micro-abrasions. Low lubrication can happen when someone is pregnant or during menopause.

Where Does Lubrication Come From? 

Many things may affect your level of lubrication; hydration, stress, diet, age, drug, and alcohol use. When we talk about self-made lubricants, we need to think about estrogen. Estrogen is a class of hormones that play a critical function in women’s sexual and reproductive development, and they’re sex hormones, too. The ovaries produce most estrogen hormones, with modest quantities produced by the adrenal glands and fat cells.

So, a low level of estrogen equals to low level of lubrication. Different conditions may decrease estrogen; menopause, pregnancy, giving birth and breastfeeding.

What To Do To Fight Vaginal Dryness? 

The first thing you should know is why, and for this, you should consult a healthcare professional. Some medical conditions linked to vaginal dryness are; yeast infection, immune system dysfunction, depression, anxiety, chemotherapy, etc. So better get fixed on what causing the vaginal dryness…

Do not think that your lubrication level determines your level of attraction towards your partner. Lubrication is the only factor that shows attraction; there are many other manifestations such as erect nipples, flushed skin, or engorged genitals. So, do not base yourself on only one thing to tell your partner that you are not attracted.

I know that this one might be difficult, but you should avoid stress. Stress is one of the main things that will kill your libido, and you should adopt some activities that will allow you to control your stress.

You should level up your foreplay game. It takes longer for women to get aroused than men; some people don’t give themselves enough time to lubricate, and then they say they cannot lubricate ‘GIVE YOURSELF TIME’. Foreplay is not limited to sexual acts, go ahead, kiss, give yourself body massage, grind, all things like this will help you get in the mood.

Invest in lube; if you feel wet enough, you can invest in a lube; do so only if you want and not because you feel pressured by your partner. If you feel pressured or shamed by your partner because of your vaginal dryness, it’s time you dump him. Though vaginal dryness might not be the most wonderful sensation, there is a way to address it without making others feel bad. 

You may want to try sex supplements; some supplements are sold at grocery stores that claim to increase natural lubrication. You may want to carry a little research on those before trying.

Lubrication levels fluctuate, so you don’t have to worry much. But if it starts to affect your daily life, you will want to talk to a doctor. Let us know in the comment below if you have ever tried any of these methods. 

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