Unrequited love!
It is all the butterflies-in-your-stomach people feel in their love relationships, minus the drama. I am somewhat of a connoisseur of unrequited love, by the experience, of course, and I cannot be proud of it. As lonely as it makes me so proud, it has its perks. It is, after all, love!
Books, movies, arts, the weather and everything else around you come under a glorious light when you are in love. A sighting of your “muse” can light up your day and a mere gesture can cause a whirlwind of thoughts. And, that’s called love. But, it is also rightly called one-sided love.
This type of love just crushes you when you watch them pass by and not so much as glance at you. Sometimes, when you haven’t seen them for a little, you may start thinking to yourself, “maybe I’m finally getting over them.” But, then you see them again and after only a second of being near them, the love feeling returns and it’s the same again. But, I guess, this is what makes unrequited love so much more selfless and measures as to how much great this type of life is compared to other love feelings.
However, the truth is that unrequited love can make you feel like you are being torn apart piece by piece. It can shatter your heart into little shards of glass and make you question your worth and everything you stand for. In other words, it hurts. Hurts really bad.
But, what is the psychology behind this painful form of love?
I’m sure there are many of you who’d want to know, so here are some things you should know about the psychology of unrequited love.
Is It Really Unrequited Love?
Unrequited love is being in love with someone, who’ll never look at you like that or in some cases, not even bother to look at you. It’s the attachment you’ll have to a person whom you know don’t have any feelings for you. It’s about you loving someone who you know won’t love you back, no matter what you do. So, you can say one-sided love is kind of selfless and unconditional.
But, if that feeling quickly wears off, especially when you are with another girl/boy, it could mean that the magical love feeling was only the result of your overactive imagination rather than actual love.
Or, a fruit of your overly romantic mind.
When you are a romantic, you will tend to have a strong emotional attachment to people (it could be anyone). As a romantic, you’ll be passionate and affectionate about mostly everything and you’ll tend to view things from a romantic point of view. So, maybe you didn’t really fall in love with that person; you are just being influenced by your overly romantic personality.
Who Are More Prone to Unrequited Love?
Unrequited love is painful –very painful. Feeling all of that love for someone who doesn’t even care enough to speak to you will drive you crazy. You’ll even find yourselves doing stupid things to get their attention. But, this kind of love is not everyone’s cup of tea.
In fact, studies have shown that there are some people who are more prone to being trapped in an unrequited love. It includes:
- People who have once been the “muse” of someone’s unrequited love.
- People who have had a recent breakup.
- Young people who are still immature.
- People with a low self-esteem.
- People who’ve always had broken relationships.
- Shy and introverted people who are not used to social life and dating.
- People who are overly romantic.
